What brings couples to psychotherapy?
Being in a relationship means constantly negotiating between your and your partner's needs, desires and expectations. Throughout your relationship, those may change or evolve, or you may experience losses and life changes and transitions that may have had an impact on your relationship. Those may lead to constant fights and disagreements, feelings of disconnect, inability to communicate and even affairs. If you and your partner may be experiencing difficulties in getting along, the help of a psychotherapist may create more space for you both to be able to talk to each other in a way that you feel listened to.
How does couples psychotherapy work?
Similarly to individual psychotherapy, during the first few sessions we will be getting a better sense of what is going on for you by exploring your relationship history from the beginning as well as the current issues you may be facing. From there, we will be able to decide if we are a good match and I will be able to make a recommendation on how to move forward. At that point, we will have a fixed weekly time (sometimes a higher frequency may be indicated), where we will dig into the specifics of the causes of your lack of communication.
Should we both come together to our meetings?
Yes, when we are working as a couple, the focus of our work is your relationship and communication, and you both need to be present at the sessions. It is also important that your therapist is committed equally to both partners, so no secrets can be maintained between one of you and your therapist. This actually guarantees that you both will be equally listened to.
And if we want to work on parenting issues?
Parenting tends to be a big source of anxiety for couples, and having a third helping you negotiate your differences and similarities as well as the decisions you may make is actually extremely helpful. Please, check the parenting page on my website for more information.
What kinds of couples issues do you see?
I see couples who are struggling with: